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A Damaged Mirror

 

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  • The Time of Our Rejoicing – In spite of everything
  • Making order of the Passover Seder
  • The Post War Challenge: Learning from successes as well as failures
  • Knowing the Way Home
  • The Gaza War and the Challenges of Statehood
  • From the place where we are right: What we can learn from a Talmudic story
  • The Holocaust and Literature: The Writer’s Dilemma
  • Meetings at the well
  • Tu B’Av – What is love
  • Whoopi Goldberg and the Jewish Question
  • The Song of Songs – Rabbi Akiva’s time capsule
  • Eshet Yifat Toar: Some thoughts on a shocking legal ruling
  • Back into the Light: The March Jewish Book Carnival
  • Drinking Coffee with the Rambam: A review of Judaism Reclaimed
  • Sukkot and the Paradox of Joyfulness
  • HaRav Adin Steinsaltz: A place at the four dimensional table
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Yael Shahar

After an adventurous and unattributable career in security and intelligence, Yael Shahar now divides her time between researching trends in terrorism and learning Talmud with anyone who will sit still long enough. She is an entertaining and sought-after public speaker, and lectures both in Israel and abroad.


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The Great Hanukkah Cover-up: self-censorship and national survival

December 14, 2025 by Yael Shahar 5 Comments

What does the mitzvah of Hanukkah teach us about Jewish survival in a world of declining nation-states? And why does the Gemara never even mention the historical circumstances of Hanukka—the military victory and the re-establishment of a Jewish state? It turns out that these two questions are bound up together in some surprising ways.

The Time of Our Rejoicing – In spite of everything

October 13, 2025 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

While other holidays are said to be times of joy as well, Sukkot is singled out in particular by the Torah: “You shall be altogether/only joyful.” But can we ever be “only” joyful? Is there ever a time when we are completely without other emotional states? Is the Torah asking of us the impossible?

Making order of the Passover Seder

April 9, 2025 by Yael Shahar 2 Comments

Passover Seder

Throughout most of Jewish history since rabbinic times, the vast majority of Jews have lived in foreign lands, barely a step from slavery or annihilation. The focus of the Haggadah reflected that reality. It is only in our day that we can retake the narrative and change its emphasis to living free in our own land. A new Haggadah does exactly that, by adding back into the text a crucial part that was left out during the Babylonian Exile.

The Post War Challenge: Learning from successes as well as failures

January 4, 2024 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

The challenge facing Israel isn’t just to learn from past mistakes, but also to learn from past successes. How might we combine the lessons learned in exile with our native bottom-up organizational culture to build a more resilient society?

Knowing the Way Home

January 4, 2024 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

What is behind Yaakov’s sudden adoption of Yosef’s two sons? And why does he make Yosef swear to bury him in the land of Canaan? Is his son’s word not enough? It seems that Yaakov–or rather, Yisrael–is once more taking the helm of the family, and he is about to hatch his most daring plot of all!

The Gaza War and the Challenges of Statehood

October 19, 2023 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

In the weeks ahead, Israel will be facing one of the hardest tests a nation ever has to face, and it isn’t what we might think. The test is not to stay strong under the threat of rockets fired at our population centers, nor of repelling vicious incursions from across our borders, nor even of standing against the hatred of the nations when we fight back. The war now facing the State of Israel poses a greater challenge, and that is to hold on to the high moral standards that have sustained us since Israel’s founding. We must ensure that we do not become the very thing that we are fighting against.

From the place where we are right: What we can learn from a Talmudic story

July 13, 2023 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

Once upon a time, two factions in the Jewish world were arguing over something they felt strongly about. In fact, they felt so strongly about it that the two sides eventually stopped eating at each other’s tables, stopped intermarrying, and even came to blows. This dispute went on for generations, until finally things came to […]

The Holocaust and Literature: The Writer’s Dilemma

April 17, 2023 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

What is the role of fiction in holocaust education? While some argue that fiction and literature have no place at all, one could make a case that The Diary of Anne Frank has done more to cement the lessons of the Holocaust in the minds of real people than any number of documentaries and studies. Art, literature, and film play the same role for civilizations as dreams do for individuals; they allow us to integrate our experiences and learn from them. They allow us not just to remember what happened but to be changed by it.

Meetings at the well

December 2, 2022 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

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Yaakov meets the daughter of his mother’s brother at the well, and falls in love with her. What is it about wells that makes them the vehicle for matchmaking? The obvious explanation is that the village well is the community’s vital center—the place where people meet and mingle on a daily basis. Really the question isn’t why wells play so prominent a role in matchmaking, but why the Torah bothers to tell us something so obvious.

Tu B’Av – What is love

August 11, 2022 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

Tonight marks the holiday of Tu B’Av, commonly thought of as Israel’s answer to Valentine’s Day, the holiday of love. Ironically the most famous Torah verse of all occurs in this week’s parashah: the V’Ahavta—the statement of Israel’s obligations to love God “with all your heart, and all your might, and all your soul”. This paragraph stands at the very heart of Jewish liturgy. But what can it mean to “love God”? After all, the Torah reinforces again and again that God is incorporeal and totally above anything we can imagine. How are we to love something we can’t imagine? It turns out, this week’s Torah portion offers us some useful advice on maintaining a lasting relationship.

Whoopi Goldberg and the Jewish Question

February 4, 2022 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

The recent kerfuffle around Whoopi Goldberg has once again ignited the perennial debate about whether the Jewish people constitute a race. The problem is that such distinctions are modern social constructs, and were invented long after the Jewish people came into being. Jews are not so much a race or a religion, but a civilization—a culture. As a culture, Judaism has its own laws, folk tales, myths, songs, and several similar—but not necessarily identical—religions. We’re a people, and any attempt to fit us into the little boxes designed for and by Western societies is destined to fail.

The Song of Songs – Rabbi Akiva’s time capsule

August 28, 2021 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

Imagine that the earth was going to be destroyed within five years, and that you were tasked with deciding what literary treasures to preserve? That is the background of the Tanakh that we have today. The Talmud records the bare bones of discussions where scholars fought for the inclusion of those writings that were dear to them, often against ferocious opposition from their colleagues. Amazingly, of all the possible things to include, the famous Rabbi Akiva chose a collection of bawdy wedding songs! What lay behind such an odd choice?

Eshet Yifat Toar: Some thoughts on a shocking legal ruling

August 20, 2021 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

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It’s been suggested that the Torah sets out a direction for societal development, pointing the way toward desired reforms, and that in each generation, scholars and governments have worked to continue this line of evolution. One such “signpost” put up by the Torah to show us how our legal systems should evolve is the Eshet Yiffat Toar—the beautiful woman taken in war.

Back into the Light: The March Jewish Book Carnival

March 15, 2021 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

Spring has officially sprung here in Israel and the hills are alive with wildflowers. We’re beginning to venture out in public again after a long and strange year!  So to ease back into what passes for normal, here are some literary recommendations from around the Jewish blogosphere.

Drinking Coffee with the Rambam: A review of Judaism Reclaimed

March 15, 2021 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

Here I review a remarkable book called Judaism Reclaimed by Shmuel Phillips, which has furnished me with food for thought for the past year. Based loosely on Parashat Hashavua (the weekly Torah reading), the book is actually a philosophical examination of Jewish thought and theology. 

Sukkot and the Paradox of Joyfulness

September 30, 2020 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

While other holidays are said to be times of joy as well, Sukkot is singled out in particular by the Torah (D’varim 16:15): “You shall be altogether/only joyful.” But can we ever be “only” joyful? Is there ever a time when we are completely without other emotional states? Is the Torah asking of us the impossible?

HaRav Adin Steinsaltz: A place at the four dimensional table

August 13, 2020 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

Rabbi Adin Steinsaltz saw his mission as nothing less than bringing the Talmud back to the people. Jewish law is meant to be democratic, but only informed citizens can vote? Then, let’s make sure every citizen is an informed citizen! Or at least, let’s make it possible for any citizen who wants to become informed to do so. This is the basis for his decision to translate the Aramaic portions of the Talmud into ordinary Hebrew (the modern equivalent of Aramaic for Israeli Jews) and then into English. His motto was “Let my people know!”

Locked Down? Here are some good reads to pass the time

May 15, 2020 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

In the shadow of Corona, most of us have had to spend an inordinate amount of time in lockdown of one sort or another. Some of us won’t be out and about again for some time. What to do with all this extra time? Read! Here are some great book-related posts from around the Jewish blogosphere.

Parashat Terumah – Mind the Gap!

February 27, 2020 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

Parashat Terumah is the first of several dealing with the construction of the Mishkan, where the priests would make sacrifice upon a great bronze-clad altar. And yet, only two weeks ago, at the end of parashat Yitro, we read a very different set of instructions: “Make for Me an altar of earth and sacrifice on it … ” How are we to reconcile the need for this elaborate structure to house God’s presence with the instructions to worship Him using a simple altar of earth? In attempting to reconcile these two very different types of encounter, it may be helpful to look at what comes in between.

February Jewish Book Blog Carnival

February 15, 2020 by Yael Shahar Leave a Comment

Spring is in the air here in Israel, and the hills are alive with almond blossoms. Tu B’Shvat is just past, and we’re counting down toward Purim. Here are some recommendations from around the Jewish blogosphere (in more or less alphabetical order). Note that cover images link to the relevant affiliate-linked book page on Amazon.

Dazzling… Returning is an extraordinary and challenging book on many levels.
– Philip K. Jason, Washington Independent Review of Books

Intriguing! At times dark and haunting, at times lyrical and introspective, Returning resonates long after “the end”!
– Dan Sofer, author of the Dry Bones Society trilogy

Returning is a compelling, puzzling, remarkably honest story of a Jew’s sins against his people and his tradition, and of his search for forgiveness and restoration.
– Bill Tammeus, Faith Matters

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Yael Shahar is the author of Returning. She spent most of her career working in security and intelligence, with brief forays into teaching astronomy and physics. She now divides her time between researching trends in terrorism and learning Talmud with anyone who will sit still long enough.

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"In those circumstances we are reduced to bare existence, bereft of all that we once believed to define us. Naked, we have no pockets in which to store the things that we once used in the natural trade of human interactions. Instead, we come to value a different currency—our humanity. It is this currency that truly defines us, and even death cannot entirely devalue it. The more is taken away, the more we value what is left."

 

- Ovadya ben Malka, A Damaged Mirror

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“We stand on the edge of the abyss, across whose unknowable face we paint meaning so as not to see into it. It is always there. But we’re here too, and we are no less real than the abyss. We are no less meaningful for being transient creatures caught up in something too big for us. There is still value to our lives. I’ve learned that those things that are most fragile are also the most precious.”

 

― Ovadya ben Malka, A Damaged Mirror

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  • T'shuvah & Healing
  • The Jewish Year
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